I go in on August 12th (first day of school for Benji) for my final IVF apt. to get my protocol before we start meds. My cycle starts this Friday (Aug 2nd) so I will have to wait until September to start on any medication, or so I though. I received a call from our agent Lauren about the dates and meds. She suggested I call and talk to the Dr.'s nurse and ask if they can start me on birth control now or when my cycle starts on Friday instead of waiting another 30 days. What a great idea, why didn't I think of that!?!?
Birth control was called into my pharmacy right away and I should be starting them on August 4th or 5th as opposed to September 4th or 5th. doesn't seem like a huge deal but thats 4 weeks sooner we can go the IVF procedure and assuming if the embryo takes it puts me at an earlier "due date".
I did get word that out of the 8 viable embryos only 3 survived the freezing process. Lets hope it takes on the first try.
Wednesday, July 31, 2013
Friday, July 26, 2013
Back on track for IVF
A few weeks ago I posted about having to postpone IVF till November. The IPs called me yesterday telling me they have decided to forgo the extensive testing for the specific gene they were looking for since the statical odds are in their favor of the baby not having the gene they were originally concerned about. They are still doing regular genetic testing which has a 2-3 week turn around which means I can start IVF as soon as I go in for my protocol which will hopefully be next week.
In the mean time I'm trying to fit all the dental work I've been putting off. 2 crowns this month and my 1 wisdom tooth out hopefully in a few weeks because I don't want to be in the throws of IVF while dealing with pain medication and oral surgery.
In the mean time I'm trying to fit all the dental work I've been putting off. 2 crowns this month and my 1 wisdom tooth out hopefully in a few weeks because I don't want to be in the throws of IVF while dealing with pain medication and oral surgery.
Tuesday, July 23, 2013
8 lil embryos, growing in a dish
The IPs were in town yesterday for their egg retrieval and I just received a message that 14 eggs were retrieved (I'm sure there is a joke about laying eggs in there somewhere) and 8 were fertilized.
I'm so excited and looking forward to being pregnant by the end of the year.
and now we wait.....
I'm so excited and looking forward to being pregnant by the end of the year.
and now we wait.....
Friday, July 12, 2013
I spoke too soon....
A wise man once told me "If you want to hear G_D laugh, say our plans out loud"
In my last post I mentioned that the egg retrial process has begun for the IP's and I would be starting meds soon which meant I should be pregnant with in the next 8 weeks. Less than 24 hours of me announcing that we hit our first bump in the road.
I received a call from our nurse at CRM (our IVF Dr.s office) this afternoon while I was at a playdate. She called to tell me that since the IPs are doing genetic testing on the embryos that the lab that does the testing on them is back logged by 14 weeks. This means that I cant even start my part in the IVF process for another 2-3 months minimum and implanting in the next 4-5 months assuming there are not any further delays. The nurse said this service usually has a 2 week turn around which is why we did not expect the delay but apparently genetic testing on embryos has become standard practice now with families doing IVF so they are backed up. I was also told that its only become that way in the last month or so. The nurse called me because the IP mom was nervous to tell me so the nurse offered to break the news instead. They were afraid that I might think they were blowing me off or they had changed their minds or something so she thought he nurse could explain it better than she could. I messaged the IP mom as soon as I got off the phone with CRM to tell her I was not upset or feeling blown off. It does put me at a end of my pregnancy in the dead heat of summer which was what we were trying to avoid but in the end a healthy baby is what matters so waiting to get the testing done was more important than me living in my pool for my last trimester. Its not like I'm doing this for the money and antsy to get paid so waiting a few extra months is no big deal. These things take time.
I got a call from the IP dad today too while I was still at the playdate. He had to make a decision on something important that he could have done on his own and with the attorney but instead he called to see how I felt about it since it did technically affect me indirectly and wanted to let me make the call. I know this is technically a business arrangement but it goes beyond that and I'm so glad I found a couple who feels the same way, treats me as an equal with dignity and respect and not hired help.
I came across a blog tonight. Its a blog that a surrogate and her IP mother did together and they happen to be Sister-in-laws. Its so beautifully done and the IP had a similar story to my IP's. In the end the surrogate gave birth to twins.
A belly for me A baby for you
Check it out.
It will be a while before I have any updates not that we are just playing the waiting game.
Have a good summer!
In my last post I mentioned that the egg retrial process has begun for the IP's and I would be starting meds soon which meant I should be pregnant with in the next 8 weeks. Less than 24 hours of me announcing that we hit our first bump in the road.
I received a call from our nurse at CRM (our IVF Dr.s office) this afternoon while I was at a playdate. She called to tell me that since the IPs are doing genetic testing on the embryos that the lab that does the testing on them is back logged by 14 weeks. This means that I cant even start my part in the IVF process for another 2-3 months minimum and implanting in the next 4-5 months assuming there are not any further delays. The nurse said this service usually has a 2 week turn around which is why we did not expect the delay but apparently genetic testing on embryos has become standard practice now with families doing IVF so they are backed up. I was also told that its only become that way in the last month or so. The nurse called me because the IP mom was nervous to tell me so the nurse offered to break the news instead. They were afraid that I might think they were blowing me off or they had changed their minds or something so she thought he nurse could explain it better than she could. I messaged the IP mom as soon as I got off the phone with CRM to tell her I was not upset or feeling blown off. It does put me at a end of my pregnancy in the dead heat of summer which was what we were trying to avoid but in the end a healthy baby is what matters so waiting to get the testing done was more important than me living in my pool for my last trimester. Its not like I'm doing this for the money and antsy to get paid so waiting a few extra months is no big deal. These things take time.
I got a call from the IP dad today too while I was still at the playdate. He had to make a decision on something important that he could have done on his own and with the attorney but instead he called to see how I felt about it since it did technically affect me indirectly and wanted to let me make the call. I know this is technically a business arrangement but it goes beyond that and I'm so glad I found a couple who feels the same way, treats me as an equal with dignity and respect and not hired help.
I came across a blog tonight. Its a blog that a surrogate and her IP mother did together and they happen to be Sister-in-laws. Its so beautifully done and the IP had a similar story to my IP's. In the end the surrogate gave birth to twins.
A belly for me A baby for you
Check it out.
It will be a while before I have any updates not that we are just playing the waiting game.
Have a good summer!
Thursday, July 11, 2013
Mock transfer yesterday
Yesterday was the mock transfer. It took all of 45 seconds and everything went well. No discomfort except a slight pinch when she pulled the catheter out. it was LONG. This is it still in its sterile packaging.
A mock transfer is a preparatory procedure that will help the fertility doctors establish where the embryo will go and when the actual placement of the embryo will happen.
A mock transfer is a preparatory procedure that will help the fertility doctors establish where the embryo will go and when the actual placement of the embryo will happen.
Saturday, July 6, 2013
whats the hold up!?!?!?
Its amazing how much bureaucracy goes into these things. We had an easier time with the legal stuff than we are having with the IVF clinic. I have to go back in for a 2nd round of blood work because they forgot to tell me about 3 other things they need and now they need Nik (my husband) to get a bunch of blood work too. Mine came back 100% perfect so I'm surprised they need my husbands too. Luckily I have a midwife friend that lives close by who I've been bribing with bottles of wine to do our blood work for free and to pass down her lab discount to my IP's. Surrogacy is an expensive process so every penny counts.
On top of the blood work the IVF clinic won't allow us to start until they have the contract from our attorneys on file but not the actual contract, a summary that the attorney has to write up separately since they are not allowed to see the contract but they only asked for that this week when the IPs went up to start the egg retrieval process.When the IPs went in last week to the IVF clinic the said I should have been on meds weeks ago with the time line we had aimed for yet they still won't even see me until they have the rest of the stuff listed above even though they have all the important blood work results from the lab already.
ugh..... so much red tape!
On a better note I've started hording maternity clothes. I only have a few things left over that were worth keeping from my own pregnancies and luckily I do get a budget for maternity clothes but I'm starting basically from scratch. I've had some friends give me some hands me downs and I've lucked out with target and Khols so far but all of me grows when I'm pregnant so from bras to shoes I have some more shopping to do. No complaints here!
On top of the blood work the IVF clinic won't allow us to start until they have the contract from our attorneys on file but not the actual contract, a summary that the attorney has to write up separately since they are not allowed to see the contract but they only asked for that this week when the IPs went up to start the egg retrieval process.When the IPs went in last week to the IVF clinic the said I should have been on meds weeks ago with the time line we had aimed for yet they still won't even see me until they have the rest of the stuff listed above even though they have all the important blood work results from the lab already.
ugh..... so much red tape!
On a better note I've started hording maternity clothes. I only have a few things left over that were worth keeping from my own pregnancies and luckily I do get a budget for maternity clothes but I'm starting basically from scratch. I've had some friends give me some hands me downs and I've lucked out with target and Khols so far but all of me grows when I'm pregnant so from bras to shoes I have some more shopping to do. No complaints here!
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